Do you struggle to control your temper, leading to conflicts with others or damage to your relationships? Do you notice becoming frequently angry, irritable, or frustrated? Can seemingly minor inconveniences trigger intense outbursts of anger? Are you experiencing physical symptoms such as clenched fists, racing heartbeat, or headaches when you’re angry? These could be signs of anger management issues. The good news is that we can help you understand your anger better and learn tools to be more in charge of it.

Our approach to Anger Management Treatment:

Unique Approach for Each Person

Our extensive experience helps us to tailor a treatment plan based on each person’s unique needs and history. We draw on IFS, EMDR, and AEDP to address the root of your anger.

Promoting Emotional Regulation

Anger often stems from underlying emotions such as shame, hurt, or fear. We will help you identify and understand these emotions, allowing you to respond to situations more calmly and rationally.

Years of Experience in Anger Management

With our extensive experience in anger management, we have guided countless individuals toward healthier ways of dealing with anger.

A Holistic Approach

At Roya Counselling, we believe in addressing anger and other mental health issues from multiple angles. Our approach encompasses understanding the underlying triggers, managing physical and emotional responses, and developing healthy coping strategies to express and resolve anger constructively.

Developing Healthy Communication

Effective communication is key to managing anger and resolving conflicts constructively. We will work with you to improve your communication skills, assertiveness, and conflict-resolution techniques so that you can express your needs and boundaries without resorting to anger.

Humans suffer from an endless number of emotional problems and challenges, most of these can be traced to developmental trauma “

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What is Anger Management:

Anger management is not about getting rid of anger. Anger is a powerful and necessary emotion. Anger management is the journey towards recognizing, understanding, and managing anger in a healthy and constructive manner. It involves learning how to express anger appropriately, manage triggers, and resolve conflicts without resorting to aggression or violence. Anger management helps individuals develop skills to respond to anger in ways that are respectful, assertive, and conducive to positive outcomes.

Signs of Anger Management Issues:

Anger and other mental health issues:

Anger issues can often accompany other mental health challenges, such as depression and anxiety.

Frequent Feelings of Anger:

Feeling angry, irritable, or frustrated regularly, even in response to minor irritations or inconveniences.

Intense Outbursts:

Frequent anger outbursts can be a sign of anger management issues. Reacting to situations with explosive outbursts of anger, yelling, or physical aggression might mean that we need to work on developing tools to be more in charge of our anger.

Physical Symptoms

Anger is a primal emotion that manifests in our bodies. Physical signs of anger can be clenched fists or jaws, racing heartbeat, sweating, or headaches.

Relationship Problems

Anger can take a toll on our relationships. When it is not expressed in a healthy and constructive way, anger can lead to conflicts with family members, friends, coworkers, or others. In some cases, it might lead to us losing important people in our lives and causing irreparable damage to our relationships.

Legal or Financial Consequences:

In some cases, anger management issues can lead to extremely aggressive and violent behaviours or anger-related incidents. This can lead to significant legal or financial consequences, which often take a toll on our well-being.

Regretting Behaviours We Engaged In

Struggling to control your temper can lead to impulsive or reckless behavior that you later regret. These behaviours can include reckless driving, violent outbursts, or emotionally hurting people we love.


Untreated trauma, PTSD, and unprocessed emotions may result in the development of anger problems.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”



  1. Schedule a complimentary consultation.
  2. Book your first session to kickstart your therapy process if we resonate with you.
  3. Keep in mind that therapy isn’t a quick fix; consistency is vital for positive outcomes.
  4. Reflect on sessions and apply insights for maximum therapeutic benefits.
  5. Communicate what works and what doesn’t; therapy is a collaborative process.

Different types of Anger issues:

Outward Anger Issues

Sometimes anger shows up as outward behaviours towards other people. The behaviours can include shouting, cursing , breaking things , or physically abusing someone. This form of anger can seriously impact our relationships and our loved ones.

Inward Anger Issues

Anger can sometimes be directed at ourselves in the form of harsh self criticisms, blaming ourselves or depriving ourselves of basic needs. This form of anger takes a toll on our mental health and can lead to depression and anxiety.

Passive Anger Issues

Sometimes we show our anger in indirect and subtle ways such as silent treatment , making fun of someone , being sarcastic or making snide remarks. This usually leads to increased frustration and resentment in the person we are angry at and can lead to relationship breakdowns.


How do I know if I have anger issues ?

These signs usually mean you have anger issues :

  • You feel anger often
  • Your anger seems out of proportion to the problem
  • Your anger manifests as being aggressive or abusive
  • You have violent outbursts
  • Your anger is impacting your relationships
  • You feel out of control when you are angry

Is anger a bad emotion?

None of our emotions are “bad” or “unhealthy”. Like any other emotion , anger is a signal, a sign for us to pay attention to what is happening in our lives and what is important for us. It’s important to listen to it with the help of an experienced therapist to understand what it is trying to tell you.

How does therapy help me with my anger issues ?

Therapy can help you in two important ways. Therapy will give you tools and coping strategies to regulate your anger more effectively. It will also help you understand what is the deeper issue that might be leading to your issues with anger and address the roots of your anger.

What’s the best treatment for anger?

There are many approaches that are helpful for treating anger. I personally use a combination of effective approaches to ensure my clients get the best results. I integrate mindfulness and CBT approaches with more emotion focused approaches such as IFS to help my clients.

What’s the difference between anger and aggression?

Anger is an emotion while aggression is a behaviour. Aggression happens when we express our anger outwardly whereas anger is an internal feeling. One goal of therapy is to help you get more in charge of how you express your anger so that you don’t have to show it through unnecessary aggression.

Why my anger management skills sometimes don’t work?

If you solely focus on using tools and not address the root of your anger , it is likely that your anger can still surprise you at times. This is why it’s very important for me to ensure I address the root cause of a client’s anger and heal the wounds that cause their anger in the first place.
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About Roya Counselling

At Roya Counselling, we are committed to providing professional, ethical, and evidence-based counselling services that prioritize your well-being. We understand that seeking therapy can be a difficult and brave decision, and we honor the trust you place in us. We have personally experienced the transformative power of therapy, and we will never take your desire for healing lightly. 


We believe in the inherent resilience of our clients, and our stance towards our clients is non-judgmental, compassionate and curious.
We feel very privileged to hear about our clients’ hopes, goals and pains and witness them slowly recovering their peace, happiness and livelihood.