Anger management

Anger is a powerful emotion that can be helpful when we take time to understand it. Maybe your anger is trying to tell you that you need stronger boundaries or need a break and need to slow down. Therapy helps you get in touch with your anger instead of being controlled by it.

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Why online counselling for anger issues ?

My training as an RCC means I have the knowledge and requirements to guide you.
I don’t look at your anger as an enemy. I look at it as a part of you that needs attention, care and soothing
I will help you with practical tools AND I will help you learn what is triggering your anger in the first place
I use evidence-based approaches that have proven results
Access secure online therapy to learn to regulate your nervous system

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Anger Management Issues:

Outward Anger Issues

Sometimes anger shows up as outward behaviours towards other people. The behaviours can include shouting, cursing , breaking things , or physically abusing someone. This form of anger can seriously impact our relationships and our loved ones.

Inward Anger Issues

Anger can sometimes be directed at ourselves in the form of harsh self criticisms, blaming ourselves or depriving ourselves of basic needs. This form of anger takes a toll on our mental health and can lead to depression and anxiety.

Passive Anger Issues

Sometimes we show our anger in indirect and subtle ways such as silent treatment , making fun of someone , being sarcastic or making snide remarks. This usually leads to increased frustration and resentment in the person we are angry at and can lead to relationship breakdowns.

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Common questions about anger management:

How do I know if I have anger issues ?

These signs usually mean you have anger issues :

You feel anger often
Your anger seems out of proportion to the problem
Your anger manifests as being aggressive or abusive
You have violent outbursts
Your anger is impacting your relationships
You feel out of control when you are angry

Is anger a bad emotion?

None of our emotions are “bad” or “unhealthy”. Like any other emotion , anger is a signal, a sign for us to pay attention to what is happening in our lives and what is important for us. It’s important to listen to it with the help of an experienced therapist to understand what it is trying to tell you.

How does therapy help me with my anger issues ?

Therapy can help you in two important ways. Therapy will give you tools and coping strategies to regulate your anger more effectively. It will also help you understand what is the deeper issue that might be leading to your issues with anger and address the roots of your anger.

What’s the best treatment for anger?

There are many approaches that are helpful for treating anger. I personally use a combination of effective approaches to ensure my clients get the best results. I integrate mindfulness and CBT approaches with more emotion focused approaches such as IFS to help my clients.

What’s the difference between anger and aggression?

Anger is an emotion while aggression is a behaviour. Aggression happens when we express our anger outwardly whereas anger is an internal feeling. One goal of therapy is to help you get more in charge of how you express your anger so that you don’t have to show it through unnecessary aggression.

Why my anger management skills sometimes don’t work?

If you solely focus on using tools and not address the root of your anger , it is likely that your anger can still surprise you at times. This is why it’s very important for me to ensure I address the root cause of a client’s anger and heal the wounds that cause their anger in the first place.

About me

I am Roya Vojdani, MA, and my goal is to use my years of clinical experience, personal life experience and my training to help you live your life more fully. I know that allowing another person into your inner life is an important decision and I strive to honour your trust and create a safe space in which you can blossom.

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I believe in the inherent resilience of my clients and my stance towards my clients is non-judgmental, compassionate and curious.
I feel very privileged to hear about my client’s hopes, goals and pains and witness my clients slowly recovering their peace, happiness and livelihood.